Sex Toy Guide

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Education and support hub

Thirteen guides, all free

Everything we know, written down.

Whether you are starting from nothing or filling a specific gap, this is the whole library. Clear, inclusive, and none of it behind an email address.

Never bought anything? Start here → Or browse everything →

Cannot find an answer? Email an educator. There is no wrong question.
Why this exists

Nobody taught you this, and that was never your fault.

Most people got one biology lesson at fourteen and nothing since. Everything after that came from guessing, from other people's assumptions, or from an industry with an interest in what you buy rather than what you understand.

These guides are the opposite arrangement. They are free, they name what is not worth buying, and they tell you where we do not stock something rather than pretending otherwise. If you read all of them and never buy anything, that is a perfectly good outcome.

Getting started

If you are new to any of this.

Sex toys for beginnersWhere to start, what to skip, and six pieces from $39 that are hard to get wrong. The body safe standardWhat a product must pass before we will stock it. Four rules, published so you can hold us to them.
Choosing

Before you buy anything.

How to choose your vibratorFive questions, answered in order, that narrow hundreds of options to one or two. Guide to materialsPorous or non porous, and why that single distinction decides everything else. Guide to measurementWhat a stated size actually means, and how to work out girth from width. Vibrators and massagersThe seven pieces, the six types, and the specifications worth ignoring.
Using

Once you have chosen.

How to use your vibratorTechnique, pace, and what to do if sensation dulls. Guide to personal lubricantThe three types, osmolality, and why a moisturiser is not a lubricant.
Anal and prostate

Where the safety information matters most.

Anal toysThe four rules that never change, how to size it, and the six categories. Butt plugsSizing, the neck, how long to wear one, and why a cord is not a flared base. Prostate massagersAnatomy rather than orientation, and where to start. Preparation and douchingOptional, gentle, and less often than you think.
Together

With someone else.

Couples' toysSix categories, and how to raise it without the awkwardness. Bondage and power playSix safety rules, quick release, and what separates gear you trust from gear you regret.
Afterwards

Care and longevity.

Caring for your piecesCleaning, drying and storing. About a minute, and it is what makes something last years. Returns and your rightsWhat the law gives you, and the ninety day replacement on top of it.
Beyond the products

If the question is about your body rather than a purchase.

The shop funds the school. The school is where most of the useful part lives, and a great deal of it is free.

  • Eight free tools, including the Body Map, the Doctor Script and the Comfort Toolkit. Complete resources, no card required. Take one.
  • Perimenopause and menopause. Work out which stage you are in, then read the one written for it.
  • If something happened to you, RECLAIMED is the right door, and it is gentler than anything else here.
  • The Academy, from free introductions to full practitioner certification. See the doors.
Education and support hub

Read all of it and buy nothing. That is fine.

These guides are written to be useful whether or not you ever order from us, which is the only way they are worth reading.

Start with the beginners guide → Or ask an educator →

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