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Barely · Pelvic floor and intimate wellness
Two pieces
The muscle group nobody mentions until something goes wrong.
Your pelvic floor holds your bladder, supports your organs, and shapes how much you feel during sex. Most people are told about it once, after childbirth, and never again.
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What it actually does
Four jobs, all of them daily.
It is a sling of muscle running front to back across the base of the pelvis, and it works constantly whether you think about it or not.
It closes the bladder and bowel, so weakness shows up first as leaking when you cough, sneeze, laugh or run. It supports the organs above it. It stabilises the pelvis and lower back. And it contracts rhythmically during orgasm, which is why tone changes both how much you feel and how much your partner does.
It weakens with pregnancy and birth, with age, with heavy lifting, with chronic coughing, and notably through perimenopause, when falling oestrogen thins the surrounding tissue. None of that is a personal failing, and all of it responds to training.
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Strengthening is not right for everyone.
A weak pelvic floor is common. So is an overactive one, and the two feel similar from the inside while needing opposite treatment.
Training probably helps if
- You leak when you cough, sneeze, laugh, lift or run.
- You feel less during sex than you used to.
- You are through pregnancy or birth and have been cleared to exercise.
- You are in perimenopause or menopause and things feel less supported.
- Nothing is painful, and nothing feels permanently clenched.
Stop and see a pelvic health physiotherapist if
- Sex is painful, or insertion of anything is difficult.
- You feel heaviness, dragging or a bulge. That can indicate prolapse, and strengthening exercises are not the first answer.
- Your pelvic floor feels permanently tight, or you cannot fully relax it.
- You have ongoing pelvic pain, or pain with bladder or bowel movement.
Why this matters: an overactive or hypertonic pelvic floor is a muscle that is already too tight. Kegels make it tighter and make the symptoms worse. It is frequently mistaken for weakness, and it is one of the most common reasons pain with sex does not improve.
A pelvic health physiotherapist can assess which of the two you have in a single appointment. Nothing on this page replaces that, and if you are unsure, that appointment comes first.
The range
Two sets. One starts you, one finishes.
Both are body safe silicone, both are progressive, and both are in stock.
Four piece set · start here
Soma
A four piece set with ten modes, a wireless remote and rechargeable power. Vibration gives the muscle something to respond to, which makes it easier to find in the first place.
$59See Soma →
Five weights · the full course
Soma+
Five progressive weights taking you from wherever you are through a complete programme. If Soma is the starting point, this is the whole thing.
$69See Soma+ →
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The rest of Hers
Fifteen pieces from $39, covering external, internal and both at once. If pleasure rather than training is the goal, start there instead.
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How training actually works
It is a muscle. It responds like one.
Which means consistency beats effort, and results arrive on a timescale nobody likes hearing.
Find it first
The muscle you would use to stop yourself passing wind, or to stop urinating midstream. Do not actually stop midstream as an exercise, which can irritate the bladder. Use it once to identify the sensation, then leave it alone.
Lift, do not bear down
The movement is inward and upward. If your stomach, thighs or buttocks are tensing, or you are holding your breath, the wrong muscles are doing the work. This is the most common error and the reason many people train for months without result.
Release matters as much as squeeze
A full relaxation between repetitions is half the exercise. Training only the contraction is how a weak floor becomes a tight one.
Short and often
A few minutes daily beats a long session weekly. Most protocols use short holds and longer holds in the same session, and progress by adding weight rather than time.
Expect weeks, not days
Most people notice a change somewhere between six and twelve weeks of consistent practice. Nothing useful happens in the first fortnight, which is exactly when people stop.
Then keep going
Like any muscle, it detrains. A maintenance routine a few times a week holds what you built.
Using them well
- Water based lubricant, always. Silicone lubricant degrades silicone.
- Start with the lightest weight, even if it feels too easy. Progression is the method.
- Do not wear them all day. Sessions, not shifts. A muscle held under load for hours fatigues rather than strengthens.
- Remove them if anything aches. Ache is not progress here.
Cleaning and storage
- Warm water and a mild soap before and after every use.
- Dry fully before storing. Retrieval cords hold moisture, so dry those too.
- Store separately, not touching other silicone.
- Check the cord before each use for wear.
Full detail is in Caring for Your Sex Toy and the Guide to Personal Lubricant.
The Barely promise
Faulty in ninety days? Replaced. Packaging not plain? Free.
- Ninety day replacement. Faulty or stops working inside ninety days and a replacement ships. No forms, no return postage.
- Plain packaging, or it is free. Unmarked outer, neutral sender name, discreet statement descriptor.
- Body safe, and stated. Material, cleaning and lubricant compatibility on every product page. Read the standard.
- Ask first, always. Questions before you buy are welcome, including whether any of this is for you.
Common questions
Answered plainly.
Soma or Soma+?
Soma at $59 if you are starting, want the vibration to help you find the muscle, or are not sure you will stick with it. Soma+ at $69 if you want the full five weight progression and intend to train properly. The ten dollar difference is not the deciding factor; the commitment is.
How long until I notice anything?
Six to twelve weeks of consistent practice for most people. Nothing useful happens in the first fortnight, which is unfortunately when almost everyone gives up. Short and daily beats long and occasional.
I am postpartum. Can I use these?
Once you have been cleared to exercise, and ideally after an assessment with a pelvic health physiotherapist. Postpartum is exactly the situation where weakness and overactivity are hardest to tell apart, and where getting it wrong costs the most time.
Will this help with pain during sex?
Possibly not, and it may make it worse. Pain with sex is often associated with a pelvic floor that is too tight rather than too weak, and strengthening a tight muscle is the wrong direction. Please see a pelvic health physiotherapist before buying anything on this page.
Does this actually improve sex?
Tone affects sensation during sex and the strength of the contractions during orgasm, so many people report a difference. It is not a guarantee, and it is a slower and less certain route than most marketing in this category suggests.
Is this only for women?
The pelvic floor exists in every body and men benefit from training it too, particularly for continence and after prostate surgery. These two sets are designed for internal vaginal use, so they are not the right tool for everyone. Ask us if that is your situation.
Barely products are for personal wellness and pleasure. They are not medical devices and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Nothing on this page is medical advice. If you are pregnant, postpartum, have prolapse, pelvic pain, or pain with sex, speak to your doctor or a pelvic health physiotherapist before starting any pelvic floor programme.
Pelvic floor
Slow, unglamorous, and worth it.
Two sets, a real protocol, and an honest account of when this is the wrong thing to buy.
Start with Soma, $59 → Or ask first →
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